I've been deferred! Now what?

So, before the early decision/early action decisions are released, it's probably time to at least consider what to do if you are deferred.

First, what does that mean?  Well, it means they weren't ready to make a decision for you, and they want to see more.  Yes, it will be disappointing, but it's not a 'no," so let's not get too discouraged, okay?  The question for you now is, what's next?

1.  The first thing you should do is see your college counselor so that you and she can make a plan.  She will be an important resource and ally!  Hopefully you've kept your grades up, because they're going to want to see your mid-year transcript.  But there's even more you can do.

2.  After consulting your counselor, you may want to send in an additional teacher recommendation, particularly from a current teacher who can address your senior year performance.  You can also update your application with any new information.  Perhaps you were named outstanding delegate at the recent Model UN conference, found a job, won the lead in the spring musical, or were inducted into the National Honor Society since you submitted your application - those things need to be added to your file.

3.  Of course, if you have taken the SAT or ACT since you submitted your application, make sure those scores are sent to the college.

4.  We also recommend that you write a letter reiterating why you believe you are a good fit for the school and what you believe you will contribute to the community.  You are your own best advocate, so now is not the time to be bashful or humble, and we believe this letter can be very helpful.

5.  If possible, you might consider a return visit to campus. It's not mandatory, but you can sit in on some classes and perhaps schedule a brief meeting with your admissions counselor.  If you can get a meeting, make sure you go in with a definite idea of what you want or need to say.

6.  I've always been a big proponent of hand-written thank-you notes, so consider writing - not emailing - your rep when all is said and done.  Regardless of the outcome, they will appreciate your gratitude for even considering your candidacy.

And finally, if you ultimately are not accepted, it's not the end of the world.  It may seem like it (I know, I've had my share of rejections), but it's really not.  As I have said many, many times, sometimes Plan B (even C or D) ends up being the best thing that could happen to you.

The stages of rejection grief

You've been rejected, denied, summarily dismissed...whatever you want to call it.  It never feels good, and like most bad things, we all tend to go through the stages of grief.  That's about all the set-up this article - the 5 stages of EA rejection grief - needs.  Even though it is written from the perspective of a now college junior, it still rings very true.

The good news is that the sadness and tears eventually pass and like the author, you will gain a sense of perspective.  Promise.