The Junior's Road to College Wrap-Up

First, thank you so much for joining us at 'The Road to College' program last Sunday.  We know we provided you with an avalanche of information, but we hope that as you go through the college process with your daughter, you will be reminded of what you learned.

Here are a few highlights I hope you'll keep in mind.

1.  Your daughter is in good hands.  We can't wait to share our experience and expertise with your daughter, and we look forward to advocating for you her.  From brainstorming essay topics and proofreading applications to investigating scholarships and weighing the pros and cons of each college as she makes her final decision, we're available for her as often as she needs.  And of course, GPS has an excellent reputation, and we have the stats to prove it.

But remember, this is your daughter's college search, and she needs to lead the way.

2.  You know your daughter better than anyone, and the parent perspective letter we have asked you to write will be invaluable as we write recommendations. Due February 1, please take the time to write down your thoughts about your amazing daughter.

3.  Authenticity is critically important.  Your daughter doesn't need to be what she thinks a college wants her to be, and in fact, most will be able to see through that.  Likewise, we do not want to "package" her, but we do want to help her present her many strengths and talents so that schools will understand and value who she really is.  If she is her authentic self, she is more likely to find a college where she will thrive long-term.

As one of my wise colleagues likes to say, "College is a match to be made, not a prize to be won."

4.  There are over 3,000 colleges and universities to choose from in the US alone.  Even though your daughter may think she wants a large state university or a school below the Mason-Dixon line, there might be a hidden gem out there that fits her perfectly!  There are amazing small to medium size liberal arts schools, women's college (yes, I said it), urban campuses, rural locations, and even schools in Canada or abroad that might offer what she is looking for, including financial incentives. So don't shut the door to the possibilities too quickly.

5.  Ultimately though, you should listen to what your daughter is telling you.  She wants to please you, but she also may not want to apply to the school(s) you prefer.  Ask her why the school doesn't "fit," and then pay attention. Truly, this is not your college search (or application), and she may know more about it than you - or we - know.

6.  The next year and a half may at times be exhilarating, frustrating, and disappointing, but ultimately it will be joyful.  It is indeed a rite of passage, and it is a privilege for us to be along for the ride.

Takeaways from Sophomore College Program

On Monday evening, parents of sophomore gathered to learn and understand more about the college process.  If you were unable to attend - or even if you were in attendance - here are five takeaways we hope you will keep in mind.

1.  Your daughter is going to get into college.  In fact, there are many colleges and universities out there that will be happy to accept her.

2.  We firmly believe there is a school for everyone, but it pays - sometimes literally - to think outside the box. While we know most girls will start with the familiar names, be willing to look at schools that don't have that name recognition. Schools like Quinnipiac, Millsaps, Gettysburg, Whitman, Hendrix, or the University of Arkansas or Kansas are worth your consideration.

3.  There are a number of extracurricular options available too.  The ACE mentor program is an outstanding option for girls who are interested in engineering or architecture.  One GPS senior recently won an ACE scholarship too.  Girls interested in business/entrepreneurship can intern with LampPost or participate in the 24 hour incubator through Mad, Bad, and Dangerous.  Research opportunities at UTC are available two afternoons a week, and girls interested in government, education, or women's issues should see Mrs. Mines about opportunities available in the Mayor's office.  In-school options are great, but you can also expand your horizons by leaving campus.

4.  You'll drive yourself crazy trying to be what you think a particular college wants you to be.  Just be your best self, and there will plenty of colleges that will come looking for you.  You'll be happier with the results that way.

5.  Your daughter is applying to college.  You are not.  Don't forget that this is her process, so encourage her to take ownership of it.